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Reminder that fat disabled people exist and have a sexuality.Reminder that fat disabled people can be queer. They can be bi, pan, lesbian, gay, ace. They can be trans. They can be loud and provocative, or gentle and soft. Fat disabled people can be desired and can also desire. They can be saucy, and flirtatious. They can feel at home in their own bodies, and they can make love to themselves. Fat disabled people can be seductive, and surprising. They can attract men, or women, or any gender beyond, combined, or in between. They can enjoy what they look like in the mirror, or in risque clothes.
Fat disabled people can love the feel of their body pressed to another’s, or be turned on when their partner writes a smutty text to them. They can be bold or inhibited, they can by coy. Fat disabled people can feel sexy when they move from their mobility devices to the bed. They can feel hot in their sex swings, and on their wedges, or using their canes. They can feel sexy when their partners fingers sink into the flesh of their thighs, and bellies, and buttocks. Fat disabled people can be kinky. They can be dominant, submissive, or switch.
Fat disabled people are have the full spectrum of sexuality, because fat disabled people are human beings with agency over their bodies.
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Reactionaries will essentialize gender and sexuality, the first as an immutable binary, the second as a rigid set of behavior everyone is required to engage in and avoid.
But fat people, disabled people, and especially fat disabled people are outside of these categories: they are to be genderless, sexless, with the only “porn” they can partake in being inspiration porn.
Ableism and fatphobia are everywhere, and even people who think of themselves as progressives or radicals otherwise will wince at the idea of a disabled people being a whole person, of a fat person’s flesh being desirable and mutually experienced with joy.
So please, as you see depictions of sexual and gender minorities, take note of how often they are thin, abled, and usually white versus other sort of bodies just as capable of having the full gamut of human experience.
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